Sir Winston Churchill, Abraham Lincoln Presiding – Just Two of The Gents Featured Below.

Hello Friends,
It is with great enthusiasm that I write to you on this misty Thursday morning from Minneapolis.  Tiny bulbs are beginning to push their way through the soil in Loring Park, threatening impending splendor.  Despite the looming clouds and pre-April showers, Spring has arrived!

Before the big reveal, a few disclaimers:

  1. While this list (and In Praise of Men) is predominantly concerned with the past century, a handful of candidates date back to the 1800’s.  Their deeds continue to reverberate in our present, which is why they’ve been noted below.
  2. Several of the names below won’t be familiar- some are only “famous” in the eyes of their neighbors, friends, families and/or immediate communities.
  3.  You’ll likely wonder why several well-knowns are absent (Einstein, Dr. King, Bruce Lee, Steven Hawking, Dr. Seuss, etc.).  There are SO MANY MEN I’d love to add, but have chosen to focus on role models who debunk outdated myths about the opposite sex.

Thus: after years of collecting candidates (there were originally 120!), months of research, raging Facebook debates, a public poll and A LOT of private vetting, I humbly present…


01. Abraham Lincoln
02. Alan Turing
03. Albert Schweitzer
04. TIE: Alexander Graham Bell & Elisha Gray
05. Arthur Janov
06. Barack Obama
07. Bernie Sanders
08. Chris Kluwe
09. Christopher Reeve
10. Clyde E. Ogle
11. Cochise
12. [14th] Dalai Lama
13. Davide Martello
14. Derek Sivers
15. Desmond Tutu
16. Dwayne Johnson
17. Frank Shankwitz
18. Fred (Mr.) Rogers
19. Henry Dunant
20. James “Jim” E. Sullivan
21. Jeffrey Gettleman
22. Jimmy Carter
23. TIE- The Kelly BrothersScott & Mark (Astronauts)
24. Kofi Annan
25. Kyle Carpenter
26. Levar Burton
27. Lewis Howard Latimer
28. Martin Prechtel
29. Michio Kaku
30. Neil Armstrong
31. Neil deGrasse Tyson
32. Neil Strauss
33. Nelson Mandela
34. Nikola Tesla
35. Paramahansa Yogananda
36. Paul Newman
37. Paul Wellstone
38. Peter Tatchell
39. Pope Francis
40. Richard Feynman
41. Robert Bly
42. Ronald Mallet
43. Robert O. Fisch 
44. Russell Means
45. Stuart Franklin
46:  TIE: Roland Orzabal and Curt Smith (Tears For Fears)
47. Theodore Roosevelt
48. TIE: Paul Hewson, David Howell Evans, Larry Mullen Jr. and Adam Clayton (U2)
49. Wing Young Huie
50. Winston Churchill

Honorable mentions: William Gibson, Buckminister Fuller, Neil Gaiman, and anyone else who I may not yet be aware of that should be on this list.  We’re expanding the above for the in-print edition, so when the book arrives, I hope you’ll take time to read up on each of these gentlemen- especially the ones that you’re not familiar with.

With Love,

PS: If there’s some sort of unscrupulous conduct by any of the above listed that I’ve somehow missed, please email me (brookercalder[at]gmail) ASAP, with subject header: URGENT- RE: 50 MAGNIFICENT MEN.



Hello  You,

First things first: have you remembered to set set your clock(s) an hour forward?  Excellent.  Now, a quick recap of this past week…

  1.  Whilst Winter is wistfully melting away, Spring is en route.
  2.  I literally *JUST* finished the last chapter! Disclaimer: entire book needs a revision (or three) before handing it over to the editing team. 😉
  3.  Publishing Campaign updates live here: www.indiegogo.com/projects/in-praise-of-men–3/x/144809#/updates
  4. Do something you’ve never done before today and check it off your bucket list!



Thirteen years ago today, on February 27th, 2003, one of the brightest beacons of our time- Fred Rogers–  ascended.

As if but months back, I recall briskly strolling home from a writing session at Nina’s Coffee Cafe, only to discover the New York Times article announcing his departure on our dining room table.  The wind knocked out of me, I surveyed the headline to make sure I’d read it right…  I had.  Blankly, I stared out of the window of 589 Laurel Avenue- a house in historic St. Paul that I shared with beautician Sandra Albert, author Von Braschler and actor Dan Fuller- swallowed the lump in my throat, then mustered up the courage to read the obituary of my television Dad.

Tear-stung half way through, I fumbled for the nearby phone, in a weak attempt to call my Mother, who was probably the only person that might understand my impending melt down.  I couldn’t finish dialing on first try, hung up after the first buzz during the second, then deliberately let it ring.  The 27-year-old me was embarrassed, but the kid in me couldn’t help it.  By the time she answered, I was sobbing unintelligibly, whilst silently thanking various Catholic, Roman and Greek deities that none of my aforementioned housemates were around to witness this hot mess.

You see, for many of us Gen-X/Y-ers dealing with divorce and/or Fatherlessness in our families, Mister Rogers was our part-time Pop, Uncle or Granddad.  For others, he was a mentor, friend, tour guide, self-esteem coach, or if nothing else, that familiar, reassuring, smiling face between channels.

After a heart-to-heart with my Mom, I finished reading his obituary, then dragged my feet upstairs, to the privacy of my then-pink bedroom.  And so, one block away from where F. Scott Fitzgerald was born, I dug out what childhood toys I had left, surrounded myself with them and cried myself to sleep.


Of all the bigger pieces I’ve read about Fred, this 1998 Esquire Magazine  cover story by Tom Junod is one of the most touching:
esquire.com/entertainment/tv/interviews/a27134/can-you-say-hero-esq1198.  I also cherish this recently republished New York Daily News article from 1973: www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/tv/mister-rogers-focuses-children-feelings-article-1.2542259.  Reading this coverage of his funeral has also helped me to make peace with it, as rainbows, hearts and coloring pencils couldn’t have been more appropriate, and I’ve always admired Yo-Yo Ma (now more than ever):  http://old.post-gazette.com/localnews/20030504rogers0504p1.asp.

Tonight,  I hope that you’ll take a moment to remember Fred with me, to reflect on all of the helpful things he taught us, and to re-visit an important episode.  In our adult lives where everything moves at near-light speed and all has changed, this episode is particularly pertinent:  www.youtube.com/watch?v=c8eEHV-b6WM.

Next, I’d like to acknowledge that it’s partially due to Mister Rogers’ work that I’ve been able to pen In Praise of Men.  If ever any thing’s out of place in your life and you need advice, to see the smiling face of a life-long neighbor or friend, all you need to do is find him on Youtube, or visit his legacy site: www.fredrogers.org/fred-rogers.

Finally, I’d like to spread some good news: Fred is still very much with us, in the countless lives he touched.

Thank you again Mister Rogers, thank you to your family, staff and to PBS.

With Speedy Delivery and Love,


Two of my favorite men in the world, who are featured in our final chapter,
50 Magnanimous Men.


1Norma Jean Baker- one of the bright 20th Century beauties pondered in 

As returning folks know, today is not only St. Valentine’s Day, but the day that we go public via social media!  If you’re visiting for the first time, please accept a warm welcome; if you have any questions, I’ll be monitoring our Twitter as well as our new Facebook group intermittently today (or leave a note below): facebook.com/IPofM.

Should you have queries about the dame pressing this thing, peek-a-boo here:  inpraiseofmendotcom.wordpress.com/about/

Last, I’d like to point out that St. Valentine was a bold and bad-ass gentleman of Faith, who reportedly refuted the Roman Emperor Claudius II.  Here’s a few fascinating things you may not know about him, and today’s holiday, courtesy of The History Channelhistory.com/news/6-surprising-facts-about-st-valentine

Wishing You Love & Happiness Always-


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